HISTORY OF FEMALE EJACULATION

          Early during the 1800’s and before the idea of female orgasm was totally unknown. The suppression of female sexuality was so deep rooted; nobody gave concern about the sexual feels of women. If a woman feels sexually aroused and exhibits erotic behavior, she was immediately taken to the doctor either by her husband or other house hold members. The then present doctors were all male, and they would consider irritability (due to the failure of the husband to recognize the erotic mood of her), temperature and swollen clitoris and associated organs as symptoms of a disease and would call it as ‘hysterical tension’. The treatment prescribed was masturbation. The unprivileged aroused woman was not even allowed to do that to herself as it was considered unhealthy and would corrupt her mind. The poor woman’s genitals were stimulated to orgasm by the midwife at the ‘doctor’s office’ or sometimes the doctor himself would do the honor. The couple would happily return to their daily lives thanking the doctor for relieving her of the ‘disease’. Sometimes the husband himself would relieve her of the ‘disease’ unwittingly if he also feels horny. Their peaceful household would continue till she gets aroused again.

            During the period of Industrial Revolution, towards the end of 1800’s, steam driven vibrators were discovered and this relieved the midwives from their weird job of helping women masturbate. Indeed the doctors of those times used several tactics and methods to bring a woman to orgasm in their treatment for ‘hysterical tension’. All these contraptions existed because nobody cared about female orgasm and ejaculation, and the mere existence of female orgasm was totally unaware of. To the start of the 20^th century even doctors were not aware of the existence of female orgasm. Further research and new understandings opened the minds of men and subsequently the male dominated society to the understandings regarding female sexuality and orgasm. It was then discovered that the clitoris is the push button for female orgasm and ejacualtion.

Misconceptions regarding female ejaculation.

If we study the history of female ejaculation over the past 50 years, we will learn that women were ejaculating only since 1980. Anybody will find this ludicrous and ridiculous. The experts who pronounced this were all completely wrong for several years. Many knew they were wrong but the majority’s opinion dominated. Few of those who knew are Grafenberg, 1950; Sevely & Bennet, 1978; Belzer et al., 1981; Perry & Whipple, 1981; Addiego et al., 1981; Sensabaugh & Kahane, 1982; Belzer et al., 1984; Zaviavic et al., 1984; Stifter, 1987; etc. This non-acceptance has resulted in unnecessary surgeries by surgeons who attempted to fix the ejaculation and unnecessary elaborate counseling (the counselors attempted to find the cause out of female genitals and unnecessarily blamed others and the lady). Occasionally it even resulted in separation of the couple by divorce.

            Alice Kahn Ladas, John D. Perry and Beverly Whipple, the authors of ‘The G-spot’, mentions that they were receiving lot of letters from women who have sustained various types of personal maladies because of their ejaculation during coitus. Gynecologists and psychiatrics were telling them that they were urinating during intercourse and tried hard to ‘cure’ the problem by exercises, surgery and intense counseling.

This photograph shows the engorged anterior vaginal wall during orgasm. The texture is glandular and suggestive of swollen glands.

          In 1981, in the month of May, the Newsweek published an article “Just how the sexes differ” and in that article, as one of the major differences between men and women, they have mentioned that men ejaculate while women don’t, during coitus. But contrary to the then popular notion, Galen was very well aware of female ejaculation and even Aristotle has written about female ejaculation. Dr Graaf in his famous article “New treatise concerning the generative organs of women” has elaborated in detail about female prostate and ejaculation as a jet and squirting of fluid during orgasm. He says, “... during the sexual act it discharges to lubricate the tract so copiously that it even flows outside the pudenda. This is the matter which may have been taken to be actual female semen".

The first picture depicts the relation of female prostate with the female urethra while the second picture shows the microscopic image of the gland.

            In the year 1980, a real video of an ejaculating woman was presented to the SSSS (Society for the Scientific Study of Sex) by two active researchers named Perry and Whipple. The video actually showed the stimulation of female genitals by fingers and during the orgasm it clearly demonstrated the discharge of milky white fluid from the urethra. Prior to the presentation when the matter was opened for discussion to the society, Martin Weisberg, M.D., an eminent gynecologist of those times responded in disagreement that he had spent most of his life in repairing and rearranging female reproductive organs and said that he hasn’t seen any female prostate and therefore women don’t ejaculate. He has obviously assumed knowledge over physiology of female genital organs just because he is an expert female genital organ surgeon. But after he has seen the actual video, he changed his opinion and commented as below.

“The vagina and associated parts were looking normal with no mass or spots. The urethra appears normal. All associated structures appear normal. Her partner then stimulated her genital organs by inserting two fingers into her vagina and then started to stroke her urethra vertically. Surprisingly the area around her urethra started to swell and appeared like a swelling of one by two centimeters dimension distinctly visible by inspection. In the next few moments she did a maneuver by holding her breath and appeared like she is bearing down. In a few seconds afterwards several ml of whitish liquid appeared out of the urethra like it has been released from pressure. The composition of that fluid closely resembles that of prostatic fluid of men as pointed out by Perry and Whipple. The fluid is sometimes clear and in other times milky and as thin as plain water. There is no associated urine like color, taste or smell. It was actually odorless and the taste varies from time to time and from women to women depending on their food habits, extent of arousal, time of prior ejaculation, etc. The taste actually varies from sweet (like honey), bitter, sour or a blend of all these.

            The jet like short stream of fluid discharge does not mean she is urinating, as the composition of the fluid varies to a significant amount when compared to the urine. Besides one has to have a weak pubococcygeus musculature to urinate during orgasm and in all the women who ejaculated, the weakness of this muscle was never established. This muscle is essential for closing of the urine stream while urinating and it also contracts during orgasm to prevent retrograde ejaculation or back flow of ejaculation into the bladder, thereby preventing bladder fluid from escaping out also. This is very much known to the medical faculty but yet they doubt very much about the existence of female ejaculation only because of biased opinions due to preconceived ideas. Recent scientific studies have concretely proved the presence of female prostate.

Image from: "Magnetic resonance imaging of male and female genitals during coitus and female sexual arousal" by Willibrord Weijmar Schultz, Pek van Andel, Ida Sabelis, Eduard Mooyaart. BMJ volume 319 18-25 December 1999.

The Journal of sexual medicine, 2007; 4:1388-1393, states that high definition ultrasonography of female perineum of two premenopausal women, who claimed they had ejaculation during orgasm, shows images consistent with the glandular tissue along the entire length of their urethra. Ureteroscopy of these women showed one midline opening inside the urethral meatus in the 6 o’clock position. Biochemical analysis of the fluid shows all parameters consistent with that of prostatic fluid in contrast to urine.

Problems of acceptance.

The two foremost problems of acceptance of female ejaculation and the subsequent blocks in experiencing the pleasure are the mind set of women and the reluctance of the partners to accept the truth in female ejaculation. To arrive at a practical solution, both the problems should be addressed with concern.

The female ejaculation happens usually through the urethra, the same orifice that is meant for urination, and it is placed separately outside the vagina. It in no way diminishes the chances of pregnancy. As it is placed outside the vagina and as the fluid is non-lubricating, it has no role to play in the greasing effect of penile thrust. Therefore the only possible reason for its existence is pleasure. Unlike men, women enjoy two types of orgasms, the vaginal and the clitoral. The usual sexual orgasm will be a mixture of both types. In addition to these, the ejaculation adds to the pleasure so that women enjoy the triple effect. Women do pass out of their sensual feel immediately after ejaculation sometimes.

Since the only purpose of ejaculation is pleasure why can’t the society and the partners allow women to do it at their will? After all it is their birth right. It is actually a safer sexual practice as ejaculation can be achieved through digital (finger) stimulation alone. In the missionary position of intercourse, though it is difficult to achieve ejaculation through orgasm, it is not impossible to achieve it.

Preparing the partner.

The partner should wash his hands well and trim his fingernails. You should take care, especially the thumb and the next two fingers, don’t have nails past the finger tips. Clean the underside of fingernails of any dirt or crud. You should always place a towel over the bed. The volume of the ejaculatory fluid can never be predicted. It may be very large amount when compared to the male ejaculate. Keep some K&Y jelly at hand. You may need extra lubrication at times of orgasms. Don’t urgent the act. Take time and enjoy the experience. The first ejaculate may take from 10 minutes to 1 hour. You may even need to work up your fingers, wrists and arms for few days prior to the act. The necessary strokes you perform can make your hands tired if you are not well prepared. Discuss with the lady about the experience if either you or she are new to the experience. Talk out if there were any reservations or feels of shame or delicacy. You should always explain her that during orgasm she may feel an urge to urinate and she should not fight that urge as she cannot urinate during orgasm because of the contraction of the pubococcygeus muscle. Ask her to give in to the feel and experience it in full. If she, by reflex controls the urge, she might stop the ejaculate. If to be said in common terms, if she feels like urinating she should be encouraged to go ahead and pee. If she does it, it may even surprise her (if it is first time for her) that what comes out is not urine but ejaculate. She may become experienced after few attempts and she will learn to recognize the feel, ejaculate and experience the feel in full. When she ejaculates, cheer with her and share the pleasure. Don’t joke around or make fun and make an embarrassing scene. Unlike men, she may be able to enjoy multi-orgasms and have multiple ejaculations with appropriate continuation of stimulation.

Method of stimulation.

            Always make a gentle and slow start. The importance of foreplay cannot be underrated. Start from the backside and use gentle, long, and sliding strokes of varying pressure. Then reach for the clitoris and start stimulating it. Usually moist finger or tongue is preferred. Use the other hand or if cunnilingus is done, use both hands for teasing the other parts of her body especially the breasts. Continue the clitoral stimulation till her vulva is wet and moist. When the vagina is adequately lubricated, insert two fingers, the index and middle fingers, into her vagina. With the thumb you can give gentle pressure over the clitoris. Concentrate over the anterior wall of the vagina. Around 2 inches from the introitus (vaginal opening), in the anterior wall of vagina, you should encounter a spot slightly enlarged than the rest of the area. This area is called as the G-spot. It is located along side the urethra, behind the clitoris and in the anterior vaginal wall. Use gentle circumferential strokes to tease this area. Use clockwise and anticlockwise movements. Ejaculation usually occurs after stimulating the G-spot. Clitoral stimulation can help her reach clitoral orgasm and subsequent ejaculation while teasing the G-spot will also add to the pleasure by evoking the vaginal orgasm.

            The stroking methods were many. Some take the whole area as one unit and rub with fingers while some others prefer to give care to individual organs and areas. Some like walking like movements by the two fingers over the whole area. Some women prefer strokes similar to the penile strokes i.e. withdrawal by few inches and then re-sliding into the vagina. Start the strokes with a slow pace but then you should vary in pace, pressure and length of the strokes and keep on asking her which she likes best. You should always maintain eye contact with her and watch for signs of orgasm. When she holds her breath and tries to bear down contracting the abdominal and pelvic muscles, then you should increase your pace of strokes and during the middle of orgasm you should also simultaneously stimulate the clitoris. Talk to her to give in to the feel and enjoy the orgasm and ejaculation. Make sure you enjoy with her. Reassure her that making the place or you wet and messy is no embarrassment but a part of the erotica.

            If ejaculation was not successful, no problem, ask her to lie down with stomach down and get up on her knees. In this position it will be easier to reach the G-area and stimulation can be more successful. You should place your palm facing down, extent the index and the middle finger and then slide them back into her vagina. Search for the G-spot and stimulate it with gentle flexion of fingers. Most probably she will reach orgasm or even multi-orgasm with this maneuver. If ejaculation did not occur with this maneuver, gently manipulate the thumb into the vagina and use it to stimulate the G-spot. Many times it may not be possible for the thumb to reach the G-area. But on proper stimulation the G-spot will swell and it will reach the thumb. Take the other two fingers and place them over the clitoris and the surrounding area and then stroke the vagina in pumping fashion with the thumb, rubbing the clitoris simultaneously. When she reaches the orgasm, increase the pace and encourage her to let go to the feel of peeing. Most probably she will ejaculate. The key is to stimulate the area around the urethral orifice and also the clitoris and G-area simultaneously. This will help her, with adequate talking, to overcome the resistance feel and make her let go to the urge. After few ejaculations, you can proceed with intercourse. Reaching the G-spot from behind is much easier than reaching the area in the missionary position and it may help her experience better arousal and more ejaculations. Even if ejaculations don’t occur, she will be more contented and feel highly aroused and excited about the experience. By these methods of stimulation, the total experience will be more pleasurable, intense and more gratifying.