RULES OF TANTRIC MASSAGE

In this world we are exposed to many minor and ignorable physical and mental traumas. It may be in the form of a simple muscle ache, back pain, sprain, muscle strain, hit on the forehead at the entrance, stamped by other’s shoes, physical pressure, vibration, over-exercising one part of the body during work, etc. We are also exposed to so many mental trauma daily like stress, sleeplessness, physical exhaustion leading to mental exhaustion, worries, sadness, disappointments, refused smiles, refused co-operations, discrepancies, loss or bruised relationships, economy or materials, etc. Well, we all experience them everyday and these drain our good and positive energy and build up negative energy in our body and soul little by little. When they accumulate to a significant level they manifest as disease or distress of the soul like depression.

            To release the trapped negative energy and rebuild good energy and revitalize our body and soul we adopt many techniques and one of them is massaging. There are two major types of massaging as regular body massaging and the tantric massaging. If one has to master and practice the tantric massage, then he or she should know the difference between regular body massage and the tantric massage. The regular body massage is usually done to remove minor bodily ailments and also for mental refreshment. The tantric massage is done to rejuvenate the decreased sensual excitation and sensitivity due to the assault of daily life on our body and mind.

            If we have to maser the art of tantric massaging, then we have to do it properly and for that there are a set of rules to guide us in the right direction. I have listed below the rules of tantric massaging and explained them in detail so that you will master them and practice in your life for the benefit of yourself and your partner’s.

Rule 1: Collection of things we need for tantric massaging.

            You will need scented candles or incense or both to aromatize the air in the room.You will also need romantic songs CDs and good air circulation in the room. Check for ventilation and speed of fans and position of fans. You may even need 2-3 CDs so that if one gets over another will start to play on its own. It is not a good idea to stop amidst massage for a CD change. You will also need 4-5 clean towels and 1-2 clean flat rubber or plastic sheet. The clean towels are used for wrapping the pillows around. Though the essential oil used is supposed to be non-staining, most of them do stain the clothes and linen and therefore use of a plastic sheet is always advocated. Then we need the massaging oil. Good quality non-staining essential oil should be used for tantric massaging.

 Rule 2: Setting of the mood.

            You should always lock the door and both the partner’s cell phones should be switched off. The massaging table or bed should be prepared. Keep ready few towel-rolled small pillows for keeping under the neck and the slightly bent knees. You may also sometimes need to keep one below the hips. The lighting has to be non-glaring (ceiling bright lights to be avoided), dim and sensual.  Candles, especially the scented ones are always a welcome lighting instrument in tantric massaging. Then comes the personal mood of both the partners. It is always essential that both the partners have the right mental opening towards relaxation, pleasure, and synchronization. Keep cool water for instant rehydration. Both the partners should take shower prior to massaging, shave, and trim the nails. Both the partners should be relaxed and rested especially, the massager. The person receiving the massage should be advised to be fully relaxed and lose him or herself into the sensory revitalization and enjoy the experience in full.  

Rule 3: Communication.

            You should always talk to the partner about the upcoming experience first. You should learn about the receiver’s readiness for the experience, and if you detect any sort of mental block or reservations regarding the tantric massage, then it should be promptly removed. The real purpose of the tantric massaging should be explained in detail and encourage the receiver to ask questions in-between. The receiver should know the difference in methods and purposes of the regular body massage and tantric massage.  

Rule 4: Connection. 

            Establish connection between you and the partner through eye contact and talks. Exchange ideas about any topic comfortable and about tantric massaging also so that you could get views of the partner and clues regarding the partner’s understanding over tantric massaging. Once a comfort level is reached, you should feel the connection and then position the partner for massaging. Reaching the comfort level and establishing connection is a vital step in tantric massaging as it would wipe out reservations and helps achieving better co-operation, bilateral satisfaction and pleasure.  

Rule 5: Use proper sensual massaging techniques.

            Depending on the climate and body temperatures, your hand may be hot or cold, wet or dry. You should always make your hand warm and very slightly moist. An ideal massaging hand should be of the same temperature of the receiver and also should have the same moistness of the receiver’s skin. Begin stroking the partner’s body with the tips of your fingers. Start from the back and move to shoulders, arms, buttocks, thighs, and calves. Use light teasing long strokes. Sense the partner’s relaxation and ask if he or she is ready. You should ask the partner whether he or she wants you undressed. You should always maintain the connection and be rhythmic. Deep strokes should be done with your body weight and not through the strength of your hand. Use gliding strokes. Have a bent knee and be fluid. Don’t ignore any part and give emphasis on sensual parts. Maintain eye contact during genital massage. If broken, you should reestablish by talking or asking questions. During genital massage use the other hand for teasing other parts of the body. For make genital massaging us start and stop technique and use identifying gestures for the point of ejaculation. You should stop prior to ejaculation or deviate to other organs.  

Rule 6: Holding each other.

            You should always talk and hold each other after the massage and both should enjoy the afterglow. Both should enjoy the intimacy and touch. It is very essential that both the partners should be positive about the experience.  

Rule 7: No massage recommendation.

            Tantric massage is not recommended if your partner has skin problems, disease, fever, swellings or inflammatory conditions.